I'm a 49 year old childless woman. I might have been fertile at one time but I am not anymore. I look at people with children and think they must have a lot of guts, to have babies in a world like ours. And then there's the chaos of childrearing, the diapers left by the side of the road, the screaming brats in the grocery store, the traffic jams taking each child to their designated lessons and teams and events. There haven't been a lot of experiences that have made me regret not having children. A few moments of lingering and merging, but not enough to carry it through.

Even childless I want to give something to new generations, because it seems so sad to send young people out into the world without direction or inspiration. Where parents fail, family or community sometimes steps in. I see the baseball teams training in the park and the kids there are learning something useful. Coordination. Teamwork. I see a strong young woman on the tennis court who is obviously an ace, but who is toying with her two competitors, and idly watching me who is watching her. Will she have children? Perhaps not. Today I heard the daughter of a coworker say that she won't have children. Why not? Will she regret not having children? What will be her creative work in this world, if not baby making?

In many cultures a woman is of little or no use if she does not serve to birth and raise a brood of offspring for a man. Put the food on the table. Clean. What is a woman if she does none of this?

*new tag: legacy

Awaken the mother mind within every one of you human beings... We must feel what is going on in the world. It is said by the Zulu people that women think with their pelvic area, where children grow and are born...we must think that way. We must awaken the mother mind in us.
--Credo Mutwa
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It's generational. I'm not the only one. This makes me feel better. We live in Interesting Times indeed.

http://www.washingtonpost.com/local/many-gen-x-women-overworked-and-in-debt-take-a-pass-on-parenthood/2011/10/13/gIQA6dHdiL_story.html

August 1, 2011 — Health care reform requires new insurance plans to fully cover women's preventive care, which now will include free birth control, yearly wellness visits, breastfeeding counseling and equipment, and screening for gestational diabetes, domestic abuse, HPV, sexually transmitted infections (STIs), and HIV.

Health and Human Services Secretary Kathleen Sebelius today announced the expanded definition of women's preventive care. The ruling closely follows the advice of an Institute of Medicine expert panel, released July 20.

"Today, as part of the Affordable Care Act, we are announcing historic new guidelines that will help women get the care they need to stay healthy," Sebelius said at a news teleconference. "Today we are accepting the recommendations of the Institute of Medicine, so no woman in America needs to choose between paying a grocery bill and paying for the key care that can save her life."

SOURCE
http://www.medscape.com/viewarticle/747359?src=mpnews&spon=16

Comment:
Much as I have been against the Affordable Care Act ("Obamacare") because it seems wrong to force me to pay anybody for a service that I may or may not want, the details that trickle out are good. Sure, the bill hands a great big paycheck to the insurance companies. But it also requires that they cover certain basics, like birth control and STD testing and treatment, completely. It also encourages breast feeding with education and tools. There are lots of smart requirements built in, that make the insurance companies actually DO SOMETHING positive for all that money they're getting. Obama isn't able to get positive headlines or marquees, but the fine print that comes from his administration is good. It's too bad that the vehicle for his work is such a leaky ship.

The rate at which U.S. women are having babies continued to fall in 2009, pushing the teen birth rate to the lowest level in the nearly 70 years reliable data have been collected, federal authorities reported Tuesday.

(Graphic by Pamela Tobey / The Washington Post)
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postpartum depression is common
new neurobiological model to explain:
decr estrogen-->incr MAO-A binding-->low mood & risk for depression
Arch Gen Psychiatry. 2010;67:468-474.
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It's graphic, and it happens pretty fast. There's no wailing or gnashing of teeth. Then the baby elephant looks dead, isn't breathing, you get to see how the mama elephant revives it. Pretty amazing. Here's where you'll find the video.