11 STYLES OF NEGATIVE THINKING
1. Filtering: You see and hear only the things you have selected. Usually negative and are blind to the positive
2. Polarizing: This is often referred to as “black and white’ thinking.
3. Overgeneralization: It has to do with taking one isolated fact or event and making a general rule out of it.
4. Mind Reading: Self Talk, mind reading, is fatal to self-esteem, because you are especially liable to think that everyone agrees with your negative opinions of yourself.
5. Self-blame: No need to explain that one.
6. Personalization: This is the “it’s all about me” self-talk because you already see yourself as insertt negative things here.
7. Control Fallacies: You hold yourself responsible for everything that goes wrong. Be sure to read this one in the article.
8. Shoulds: You have a list of ironclad rules about how you and other people should act. People who break the rules anger you and you feel guilty if you violate the rules.
I'm sure at least one if not many of these things are familiar to you even if you did not have a name for it. Naming, Identifiying it is the first step to help us find ways to undo these harmful perceptions and thought about ourselves.
Do you already have some coping techniques you use when these happens or now that you see them do you see ways that you can take control of the issues?
9. Fallacy of Change: You expect that other people will change to suit you if you just pressure and cajole them enough. You need to change people because your hopes for happiness seem to depend entirely on them.
10. Global Labeling: You generalize one or two qualities into a global judgment. If you catch yourself fixing labels on everything that once and for all defines them in a negative light, watch yourself. You may be labeling things as a way to avoid dealing with them in a dynamic way. Here are some clues: My house is a pigsty, I’m a poor money manager, my boss is a grouch, my roommate is a slob, I’m awful at math, etc.
11. Emotional reasoning: You discount your rational thinking and rely solely on how you feel about thing to understand them. You believe that what you feel must be true automatically. If you feel stupid and boring, you are stupid and boring - if you feel useless, you must be useless.