pretending there is no judgment
- May. 30th, 2008 at 8:40 AM
Someone on my flist has decided to act/speak/think today as if there were no concepts of "good" and "bad" and no words for them either. I am joining him in this experiment. I will spend a day (maybe more) speaking as if there are only descriptive words in my language, and no judgmental ones. Perhaps I can integrate this idea on a permanent basis.
Other experiments already in process:
There is no "try", there is do and do not.
There is no "should", there is only IS.
Other experiments already in process:
There is no "try", there is do and do not.
There is no "should", there is only IS.
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I tried this with a therapy group as an exercise to look at cognitive distortions: Who can come up with the most outrageous, but still plausible sounding "should" statement.
Examples:
The sun should shine on your birthday.
Your dog should wipe his feet when he comes in the house.
Milk should be free.
What's bad is that people start to ACCEPT these "should" statements as TRUTH and begin to feel that when they DON'T happen -- that some "consequence" is necessary and THEN when the consequence does not materialize they feel that SOMETHING HAS GONE WRONG.