Then Lorena Bobbit came to mind. She's the woman who cut off her husband's penis and threw it out the car window as she was driving away. I saw a recent news bit about her, she's doing fine. She did remark that everybody was fascinated about the penis, which was found and reattached. Her husband went on to be a porn star, I imagine abusing women on camera. People weren't nearly as interested in why she did it. Why did she cut it off? I'd bet she was furious. She said it was because her husband "forced himself on her". Not just once: many times. She didn't use the word rape but I will. Her husband considered sex with her to be his right and he raped her, so much and so unpleasantly that she was angry enough to cut off his penis. Temporary insanity sounds like a nice plea deal but not the truth. The truth is something more like justice. If rape doesn't sound like a bad enough crime to you to justify that punishment, you are probably a man.
Another thing that comes to mind is this article, The Female Price of Male Pleasure. This is truth. Men get their rocks off and women tolerate. The woman's pleasure is rarely a priority, much less her orgasm. Men just want to get off. If she's uncomfortable or in pain, they ignore it. If she seeks medical help for her discomfort in sex, her care is not as well covered by insurance as his is for getting an erection. As if men have more of a right to a big fat erection than women have to not be hurt. Part of the obliviousness of men is because testosterone makes them that way. They are impulsive and aggressive because their hormones make them that way. Sex is an obsession dictated by evolution. But their selfish behavior is in part due to a gender imbalance in our culture.
How many husbands have wives that never have orgasms, with them at least? How many even know that or give a damn? I know only about a few, but that's because they've confessed to me in private. Usually the blame is on the woman for not doing what it takes to have an orgasm. What if the whole experience is so unpleasant that women wait for the man to get off and fake orgasms so that they can be set free from the imbalanced sexual process for at least a few more hours? Lots, that's my estimate.
I know all of this from my own experience. My best lover ever was a woman. We didn't have the hottest sex in the world, but she made the effort to give me orgasms. She was sensitive and curious enough to learn how, and she taught me the lesbian creed of reciprocality. Our orgasms might not happen at the same time, but we can each give the other one. Lesbians emphasize this. It just doesn't happen in many male-female relationships. The male's orgasm is all that matters--the female can "take care of herself". The male gets resentful if he has to "take care of himself". This is disgusting.
My lesbian lover knew from her own experience how sensitive a woman's breasts are, how they can be used to excite, and how easily they can be hurt. I can't tell you how many times a man has been cruel to my breasts and painfully pinched the nipple or grabbed one in his hand and squeezed it like a water balloon. My breasts are not for men. If men cannot use them to give me pleasure, they do not get to touch them.
And then there is porn. You don't have to look much to know that one of the biggest themes is domination and abuse of females by males. To start with females are expected to be unnaturally shaven and denuded of protective hair. To follow up with that we're supposed to enjoy being tied up, abused, ejaculated on. Maybe some do enjoy this but I can tell you that the vast majority of women want to be caressed and adored, we want to be seduced, not raped. But a whole lot of really sad young men have their only sexual experiences interacting with this twisted porn, and it makes them even more messed up than they were to start with. How are they going to learn how to seduce a woman from this?
So in addition to all the other crises facing our time, there is this. Women are deeply angry because we've come to realize that we've been mistreated and it does not have to be this way. The sexual imbalance in our culture has come into very clear focus. We are furious. Sexism in sexuality is an ugly thing. Men can't help that they have testosterone and are horny, but they can decide to be egalitarian, they can learn to be good lovers and sensitive partners. They can take on the lesbian practice of reciprocality in pleasure and orgasm. For many in the boomer generation it may be too late; they are stuck in their ways. But for Gen X and onward I think there is still hope that men and women can find a new equilibrium in which women's pleasure is given at least equal priority and men don't think they have a right to sex in spite of how unpleasant it is for their partner, much less license to rape little girls or their wives.
I suppose we have the creep in chief to thank for this nexus. His naked misogyny in addition to the nasty racism has emboldened a lot of creeps to act out, and women have had to defend ourselves more and more. A supreme court justice who probably had some fun at the expense of many young women is just one of three accused on our highest court. The reversal of Roe v Wade is on the horizon, and with that men will be able to legally hijack a woman's body for the purpose of propagating their sperm. Add to that the fact that abortion is getting harder to access even before the Roe reversal, and that in some states rapists have parental rights, and we have even more reasons to be furious.
I'm not in favor of abortion in general, I think it is an archaic solution to a problem that should be addressed much earlier in the sequence of events. No woman should be raped or in any other way get pregnant when she is not prepared to raise a child. But this is another issue that would require all night to even just begin writing about. Then there's income equality which puts women in a dependent position, and many more sticky wickets. The pit is deep.
But just one more thing. We have every right and reason to be angry. Women have been through a lot of crap in service to men's desires, and it is our turn to serve ourselves. It is our turn not just to have pleasure instead of pain, but to run this place and change the culture. We are not bitches, we are justified and motivated. We don't need men; we only need sperm if we want babies. Justice may be a ways off but I can smell it through my tears. Look out all you creepy guys who buy and bully for sex. The world is changing.