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I'm a House Nigger

Maher crossed a line with his joke, but that's what comedians do. It's the taboos that make jokes funny, the fact that they refer to something that is painful or secret. The US history of enslaving Africans is not secret, but it is painful. The pain is felt by many of us, perhaps not the same for those with other colors of skin, but there is no doubt that it has marred many generations of our society. When/how will we ever get past it? Can the descendants of slavery ever forgive?

My great grandmother lived in the piedmont of North Carolina and owned a slave. Am I guilty? Should I be punished for that? I have been punished, and I'm sure I will be punished more. Do I deserve this punishment? I go out of my way to protect and include black people. Does my calling them black people make me a racist? How about brown people, red people, white people? Does my effort to be inclusive make me an ass? Is there any way for a white person to broach this subject without it being negatively received? I know I am priviledged but I am not immune to the attitudes of people around me of every description.

Racial relations get worse when people are unfairly punished. I was born with no ill will toward any group. Painful experiences in my life have led me to be wary of certain groups of people. Usually it is the people who have historically been abused who later become agressive or condescending. Jewish people have treated me badly, moreso than Blacks but some of them too have assumed that I am a racist and helped to make me into one. It is understandable, but it does not result in the whirled peas that we seek.

Those who say Maher should be fired for racism, seriously now? He did not call anyone else a nigger, he was referring to himself. His joke was on TV and showed that he understood the class system that was applied to black slaves in our nation. Who else but a comedian can publicly break taboos and get people talking about it? If we are to heal these wounds, we need to talk about it. Keeping it secret and taboo does nothing to reduce the pain. Time passing, generations shifting, that reduces the pain... but I wish we could do it faster.

This brings me to the question about words. The word nigger is apparently 100% taboo, at least for a white person to say on TV. It appears to me that it is just a word. It is not the word that I am worried about, it is the attitude. Certainly words and attitudes are linked, but it is not a 100% correlation between saying the word nigger and being a racist or promoting racism. I do not believe that Maher is a racist. I think he is trying to defuse the tensions around our dark history and get us all to laugh, together, and let the pain slip away.

What other words are taboo? I can't think of any that the two white men I live with react to as strongly. Honky? LOL.

I wish "bitch" were less acceptable. The word has been applied to me many times in my life, usually because I refused to do what a white man wanted me to do, or because I got angry. The word bitch has been used to suppress the will of a huge class of people, and it is still in common usage and acceptable in rap music and other places. I am allowed to get angry and to assert myself without deserving denigration. But women have been put down for a long time and a large segment of our population would like to keep us down. If Maher had said "I'm a bitch", I would not have been offended. That is not the same as him calling someone else a bitch.

I would like to hear from the descendants of slaves in the US as to whether they think Maher should be fired. I bet they will say no. He is doing his job, making us laugh out things that hurt.

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bobby1933
Jun. 3rd, 2017 08:56 pm (UTC)
My experience is that i have much more to fear from poweful or normal people than i did from "dangerous" or oppressed people. I have always gravitated toward the stranger, the underdog, or the oppressed. My wife, who was born with cerebral palsy. felt much the same way i do. She never feared amyone, but she
did exercise more caution around "religious" and "non-handicapped" ("normal") people than around others. I know that i, for one, have absolutely no justification for racism or other forms of discrimination, though is hard for me not to hate the rich and powerful.
liveonearth
Jun. 4th, 2017 02:09 am (UTC)
I wish that religious bigotry didn't make hatred OK for some people. You'd think that religion would make people more loving instead of less so but it just isn't the case. ... Certainly people like your wife who are born with hard challenges have a much greater sensitivity for anyone who is struggling than those who have never had to struggle. I think our difficult experiences make us more compassionate, if we let them.
bobby1933
Jun. 5th, 2017 03:54 am (UTC)
Most people misunderstand what their religion is about. This is partly because they are misinformed by their pastors, priests, rabbis, imams, etcetera, etcetera. God is love. Any theologian who can't explain this should lose his job.
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