One of the best things about my sweetie is that he is at least 73% grown up. He's 62 years of age, and he's neither an early or later bloomer, he's just a man. I credit his wives and life with educating him, and him with making the effort to become a decent human being. It doesn't happen to everyone. The mankind project helped. He really is kind, generous, and thoughtful. He is a very hard worker. His word is better than his memory. He's trying.
Unfortunately, he still leaves dirty dishes in the sink. I've been working on him to realize that this is important to me but he persists in thinking that I am unreasonable in asking him to do it differently. When we have partners that we care about, it is wise to concern ourselves with their desires, even if they seem irrational. Doing what we want to do for them is different from doing what they want us to do for them, or just in general.
So I just ran across this article by a man who confesses up front that he was a terrible husband. He's so awash in authenticity and willingness to work on himself that I'd be surprised if his ex-wife doesn't want him back. If she doesn't, someone else will. Guys who are sincere and have integrity rule.
Here's the guy's blog. It's awesome.
http://mustbethistalltoride.com
And the article about leaving things in the sink:
http://mustbethistalltoride.com/2016/01/14/she-divorced-me-because-i-left-dishes-by-the-sink/
Unfortunately, he still leaves dirty dishes in the sink. I've been working on him to realize that this is important to me but he persists in thinking that I am unreasonable in asking him to do it differently. When we have partners that we care about, it is wise to concern ourselves with their desires, even if they seem irrational. Doing what we want to do for them is different from doing what they want us to do for them, or just in general.
So I just ran across this article by a man who confesses up front that he was a terrible husband. He's so awash in authenticity and willingness to work on himself that I'd be surprised if his ex-wife doesn't want him back. If she doesn't, someone else will. Guys who are sincere and have integrity rule.
Here's the guy's blog. It's awesome.
http://mustbethistalltoride.com
And the article about leaving things in the sink:
http://mustbethistalltoride.com/2016/01/14/she-divorced-me-because-i-left-dishes-by-the-sink/
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